I’m gonna say what every church-going mom is thinking: Mondays are hard when you have kids and are faithful in church on Sundays. It is the one day that messes up routines. And if you are like us, we have church Sunday nights as well. (I’m not writing to discuss the merits/detriments of having Sunday night services in the post. Thanks.)
There is a saving grace in this Monday-ness: we homeschool. So I let the kids sleep in on Mondays. It is 10:30 and some are just starting school. The beauty of flexibility in a homeschool family.
But it is difficult just the same. I’m not whining, just stating fact.
Why? Why bother with taking kids to church on Sunday nights if it messes with their schedules so and makes my life a little more difficult?
God is worth it.
He’s worth disrupting my agenda, my schedule, my plans. Not just once a week, but every day. I want my kids to know this truth. Putting the things that God thinks are important in an important place in my own life is the right priority.
You know what else is worth it? Being with other believers.
Sharpening, learning, fellowshipping, serving, edifying. These things are worth doing and receiving. I want my kids to know that relationships with church family are important. Sure, these friendships take place in other venues too, but there is something special about worshiping together on the day that our Savior conquered death.
It’s worth it.
We can become very child-oriented as parents. I am guilty as much as the next person. And of course, we ought to be in some respects. But if we embrace the fact that we are raising children that will someday become adults, we need to model for them right priorities.
Sometimes those right priorities are terribly inconvenient to naptime. Or meal time. Or play time. (Ask my boy about this.) Or soccer games. Or Masterpiece Theater. (I’m a nerd and I accept that about myself.)
When we cater to our kids in this area, we are intrinsically telling them that they are the more important than God. (Or naptime, meal time, play time, Nascar, soccer, Poirot…) In turn they will think that they are more important than God. In turn they will see no use for church at all.
They need to know that there are things more important. In Hebrews, the author is encouraging believers not to abandon their faith amidst difficulty and persecution; that their faith is precious. And then He says this,
“Let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day is dawning.” ~Hebrews 10:24-25
As the world draws closer to the return of Christ, we are to gather more often. Not less. This isn’t limited to Sundays. And it is something we should desire. To meet together and stir each other up. If we cherish this time and deem it important, even worth adjusting our normal lives for, then our kids will understand that it is a big deal.
Living in world that is all about convenience, we believe we can always have our cake and eat it too. But we just can’t. It is called sacrifice. Am I willing to sacrifice my schedule and my priorities to meet with God’s people?
Sacrifice is something that isn’t popular, but it is so important to teach our kids. Denying ourselves of a desire for a greater good. I desire peace and a good start to my week. I sacrifice that so we can spend time in a “family reunion” of sorts every week.
It’s worth it.
And yes, I will need reminders that Sundays are worth messy Mondays. As I sit in pajamas, smelling burned eggs and arguing about the merits of toothbrushing, I will remind myself that the time spent with fellow believers yesterday is worth any stress that today dishes out.